New York City Dating

New York City Dating

Straight Dating in NYC

According to the StatsBee (a column that features statistics about NYC, by the New York City Economic Delevopment Corp (NYCEDC)), New York City is 53% male and 47% female. These numebers include all residents single or married, straight or gay.  Single men reportedly outnumber single wome by 200, 000, but this number is disputed by various sources; some say it's closer to 150,000, while others have the variance considerably higher.   Jackson Heights of Queens boasts the highest male-to-female ratio of singles, at almost 2 to 1.  The report specifies that single women outnumber single men by 49% in Brownsville, Brooklyn, and by 34% in the Upper East Side of Manhattan, making these neighborhoods the ideal destination for bachelors.  Bensonhurst, Brooklyn is reported to have the most favorable to young singles (unmarried persons ages 20-34, including those in relationships) of both sexes, as the neighborhood saw a 54% increase in singles from 2010 to 2012, and Jamaica,Queens and Pelham Gardens in the Bronx had the most even male-female ratio overall at about 1 to 1. 

The New York dating scene is known worldwide for its variety.   There are parks for picnicking, countless coffee shops for intimate one-on-ones, history and landmarks for the historically incliuned, and an assortment of clubs, taverns, or bars for partygoers all interests.   While the city's reputation as a place where people meet is well-founded, there are some assumptions and sterotypes about the dating scene in NY that are more based on sitcoms than reality.  A poll from New York Magazine of 1,000 single New Yorkers (straight and gay, ages 21-40) revealed some interesting faces about the dating scene in the city, some of which are contradictory to the status quo:

  • Surprisingly, more men (38%) indicated they were looking for serious relationships than women (25%).
  • 53% claimed to have never had a one night stand.
  • 48% stated they would never have sex on the first date.
  • 21% of those the 1,000 single people surveyed claimed their biggest obstacle in finding a date was not having enough time for courtship.
  • 19% of the control group claimed to have met their last date through their job.
  • 43% of those surveyed have been on a blind date, and more than half of those (52%) claimed it was a good experience.
  • 71% agreed that the man is responsible for the bill in a heterosexual date, 15% said that the bill should be split between the man and woman or alternated (a la "I'll get this one, you got it last time"), and 2% said the woman should pay.

LBGT Dating in NYC

According to the Williams Institiute, the primary source for statistics on the gay, lesbian, and transgender articles, New York City has the highest LGBT population in the United States as of 2012.  It is worth noting that this does not presuppose the highest percentage of the population, which belongs to San Francisco at 15%.  New York's LGBT population was about 6% in 2012, and because of it's much larger population, this equates to over 270, 000 people as opposed to San Francisco's 95,000.  If this is to include nearby metropolitan areas in reasonable distance, Long Island and North New Jersey, this number doubles to more than 568,000, again putting it first among major metropolitan areas (Los Angeles/Long Beach/Santa Ana is 2nd at 450, 000).

New York boasts what would be considered one one of the most progressive approaches to LGBT affairs.  Domestic partnerships have been recognized since 1998, and same-sex marriage has been legal in the state of New York since 2011.  Greenwich village in Lower Manhattan, widely known simply as The Village, is the home of the LGBT rights movement, which began with the protests in Stonewall in and lifting of the ban of "same-sex activity".  Currently New York seen as one of the more progressive states in the U.S. in terms of sexual equality, due in large part to the Sexual Orientation Non-Discrimmination Act (SONDA) in 2003, and the executive order issued by governer David Paterson in 2009 prohibiting discrimmination against any individual based on gender.

The same poll from above revealed that 44% of gay and lesbian men and women think NY is the best place to find a partner, and 27% claimed it was easier in other cities.  This is in contrast to the heterosexual crowd, of which 59% claimed it was harder to find a mate in the big city.  Because this poll was taken in 2012, and considerable strides have been taken since that time to alleviate public pressure for individuals to be "in the closet", it is reasonable to conclude these numbers are considerable higher today.


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