NO SEX IN THE CITY, MORE REAL STORIES OF DATING IN NYC....This undoubtedly will go down as yet another year of recycling literally in that I once again ended up re-seeing guys I dated from the previous year and in some cases previous five years that somehow fell off the face of the Earth to conveniently reappear in 2007 and disappear only to magically reappear again in 2008!?!?!. the model, the fireman, the other fireman, the dentist, the football player , the director, the real estate broker, the screenwriter, they would all resurface in some form or fashion only to eventually disappear again.   

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In between recycling, only had time for seven new guys, one of whom, was actually named Seven.  He was a producer for reality T.V. shows like Daisy of Love and the Bachelor and unfortunately ended up being as dramatical as his shows. Then there was Devon, a personal trainer, whose company, I quickly realized I did not enjoy unless under the influence of alcohol and then there was Tad who under any and all circumstances was a super boring architect.    There was Brad .33, 6’5, living at home with the ‘rents in Nyack, working as a customer relations manager at Gristedes, balding (did I mention I’ve gotten open minded along the way), formerly fat guy (think biggest loser) turned hot who ended up breaking-up with me via Myspace because “despite being totally attracted to me and thinking I was cool and fun in his ‘heartest of hearts’ he couldn’t see us working out.  Yet another example of the fact that I can’t even get the guys I don’t want. 

Then there was Matt.  We initially met for drinks at 6:30pm, which quickly turned into dinner, and eventually transitioned to karaoke around 11pm.  So I’m thinking things are going pretty well and we’re definitely having fun.  I invited a couple of friends to join us for karaoke and the next thing you know he asks if we can talk outside.  Supposedly/allegedly his sister was having an operation in the morning and he felt super guilty being out and having fun and therefore needed to go home. Needless to say, I never heard from him again, although I’m willing to acknowledge maybe that was my bad for inviting people, more specifically guys out on our date ) :

Finished the year off by keeping with my at least one firefighter a year mandate, I met a 21 year old from Denver who had just recently moved to the city.  Despite the two initial red flags of fireman and 21 I decided to give him a chance he was really sweet, claimed to be mature and was hot, not to mention from a super wealthy family.  Long story short, it abruptly ended upon receiving a text message from him explaining that his ex-girlfriend from Denver had called him to say she quit her job, sold her car and bought a ticket to fly to NYC to be with him and that he was going to ask her to marry him, so we probably shouldn’t see each other any more, unless I was cool with that! 

Ending on that note, the year was looking pretty bleak until a recent last minute, dark horse entrant hit the scene.  He was 6’8, and knowing you can’t teach height that’s always been a selling point for me. He was a former D1 college athlete, so we had that in common, and he has a friend who votes on the Academy Awards selections, so he was able to get me all of the movies prior to them even hitting theaters which was kind of da’ bomb hook-up and definitely grounds for keeping him around upon entering 2009.  The down-side?  He was a super-picky eater, like won’t eat sushi, Thai, seafood, tapas, Indian or basically anything besides the basics I’ve now identified this as a new "deal-breaker" that I have consequently added to my list.  He was a baby talker which was not helping his cause and to top it off the sex was marathon style and not in a good way!  There was also a rift when I declined on making a porn with him due to my, unbeknownst to him and probably many of you, future political aspirations.  Needless to say that chapter will most likely come to a close upon the conclusion of the Academy Awards. 
And there you have it NY’s finest 2008 here’s to me finally getting it right in 2009.

Amber Soletti, still single is now co-owner of two of NYC's hottest Singles Events companies, Single And The City  and On Speed Dating. Single And The City and On Speed Dating cater to NY's "straight" & gay singles of all ages, backgrounds, interests and even physical preferences. Register today to guarantee a spot at one of her many "cleverly themed" and super sexy singles parties and speed dating events.

You can visit her sites at www.singleandthecity.com and onspeeddating.com to register for an upcoming singles event today.

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Dating highlights, or to be more accurate shall I say low-lights would include seeing two really hot fireman at the same time, which was really pimp until I came to realize that they both worked at the same firehouse. Needless to say that didn’t work out, although I was able to salvage the original fireman who I still see and you may have seen featured as the month of June in this year's FDNY calendar.

Went out with a guy recently that seemingly had boyfriend potential. Average looks, average height, had an above average appreciation of his below-average sense of humor. His name was Joe and he was a trader at Goldman Sachs. Trader Joe impressively was a Mensa, however on our third date, I came to the somewhat harsh realization that like PETA, I too do not do fur!

Went out with Conner, who was HOT, well dressed, articulate, well traveled, wealthy and so clearly unaware that he was totally gay. Along those same lines there was model Kirk, who disturbingly had a bigger affinity for the Rabbit then me.

Carlos, a real estate broker who after our first date ended up going on some major alcohol/cocaine binge causing him to vanish for two weeks only to resurface via a phone call in which he wanted to share with me a recap of his coked out binge as if I was still interested.

Curtis, a wall-street guy who thinks gays are immoral. He not surprisingly was also a big Bush supporter, can’t say I was a fan of Curtis, although he did help me coin the phrase, "sometimes you gotta choose your Bush".

There was Andrew, who chose to refer to him or shall I say his member in the third person. Actor/model Todd, who when I asked him if he voted responded to me by saying that, “yeah, he loves his job because he Also worth mentioning was my date with Anson Mount from the TV show Convicted. You may know him from Britney Spears Crossroads fame, long-story short, it didn’t work out, however it does rank as my most Win A Date With Tad Hamilton experience in NYC to date.

Needless to say this past year was pretty much a bust and I’m now focused on re-inventing the NYC dating scene that I and the majority of single women in the city have come to loathe!

Amber Soletti, still single is now co-owner of two of NYC's hottest Singles Events companies, Single And The City and On Speed Dating. Single And The City and On Speed Dating cater to NY's "straight" & gay singles of all ages, backgrounds, interests and even physical preferences.


Register today to guarantee a spot at one of her many "cleverly themed" and super sexy singles parties and speed dating events. You can visit her sites at www.singleandthecity.com and onspeeddating.com to register for an upcoming singles event today.

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Trust me, as a fellow unemployed single, time and money are precious. Make the limited money and time you have work for you. Rather than investing $50-100.00 and an entire night out on the town with a first-date, only to realize upon initially meeting that it is SO not going to work, try spending your money on a dating activity where the odds are in your favor. Speed dating and singles parties require only a couple hours of your time, can run you between $20-50.00 and enable you to meet anywhere from 10-40 eligible singles in a matter of minutes.

Is 3-5 minutes really enough time to tell if the person is the one? Probably not, however it is enough time to assess whether you have any chemistry with the person and would like to invest more time and money in getting to know them. Chemistry is unpredictable, what we do know is it's usually instant, it's either there or not and unfortunately, despite being attracted to someone's on-line pics and perhaps even clicking with them on the phone does not guarantee it will translate to the real thing when you finally meet in person. Think of how many weeks you may have invested in back and forth emails and phone calls leading up to your first and last date, not to mention all of the money you continue to fork over for your on-line dating membership.

What's great about speed dating and singles parties is that there's no build-up for weeks via on-line and telephone correspondence leading to the more likely than not, awkward and WAY too long and expensive first and last date. It's a few minutes and out. And if you're not feeling the person, you no longer need to suffer until the check comes. Think, you will have "dated" as many men/women as it would normally take you to meet in some cases, with as slow as the on-line scene is and as busy as you are, a year! And remember...all it takes is one!

So, if you're looking for a new more efficient, cost effective way to meet a variety of local NYC singles, where the odds are finally in your favor, check out a local singles company that specializes in singles parties and/or speed dating and register for a singles event today.

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If you’re new to the whole phenomenon, in the spirit of speed dating, I’ll give you the quick version. It’s a dating event that gathers an equal number of single men and women to go on anywhere from 10 to 30, 3-8 minute first-dates.

Speed dating is ideal for singles short on time and also a great segue to the dating scene for those who have been out of the dating game for a while.

One of the great things about speed dating is it’s low on pressure. Typically held at bars or lounges you can kick back a few drinks prior to the event so as to relax the nerves. If you blow it on the first few dates, you have a quite a few more dates to refine your material and get it right. There’s also no pressure of being asked point blank for your digits. Daters are instructed not to exchange or ask for contact details during or after the event. They instead log-on to the website where they registered for the event and click on any daters they are interested in seeing again. They in turn can see if anyone indicated interest in seeing them again requiring a mutual interest prior to moving forward for date two.

Many scientific studies have come to the conclusion that first impressions and instincts are more often than not correct, making speed dating, which has you assess an individuals dateablility in a matter of minutes a concept founded on existing principle.

Regardless of what people are saying, speed dating is definitely something one should try at least once. Even if you don’t meet the one, you very well could get a lead on your next job, apartment, or maybe meet a new friend that could quite possibly introduce you to your next great love. Worse come to worse, you have a ridiculous story of your speed dating event from hell that you can share with friends and family for the rest of your life.

If you’re looking to try speed dating, check out On Speed Dating a service that caters to NY's "straight" & gay singles of all ages, backgrounds, interests and even physical preferences. Register today to guarantee a spot at one of their many "cleverly themed" speed dating events or singles parties. You can visit their site at On Speed Dating.com to register for an upcoming singles event today.

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